Awesome Etiquette

Sunday at 10:40 a.m. on VPR
  • Hosted by Lizzie Post, Daniel Post Senning

Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning of the Emily Post Institute answer your questions about etiquette. From the most traditional to the unexpectedly modern the Posts tackle etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect, and honesty.

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Awesome Etiquette: Booing The Ref Respectfully

Dec 8, 2017
When booing the referee after a bad call at a sporting event, be sure to refrain from being obnoxious or making vicious comments.
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With both of us being big sports fans, we were recently asked if it's okay to boo the referee or the other team while at a game. Is it all in good fun and part of the atmosphere or best to abstain altogether?

Awesome Etiquette: Hush Up Back There

Dec 1, 2017
Enlist the help of the theater manager when other audience members are a little too loud.
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You've got season tickets to the theater, the seats are perfect, and you're looking forward to all of the performances. What's not to love? The new, noisy couple sitting behind you who also has season tickets, that's what.

Awesome Etiquette: How To Show Your Gratitude

Nov 22, 2017
A supportive friend has stepped up and helped with childcare when you needed it most. What are some good ways to show your appreciation?
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A dear friend has provided you with childcare as you recover from an injury. How do you respond in kind when you can't reciprocate with the same favor and she won't accept money?

Awesome Etiquette: No Drama

Nov 17, 2017
When someone tries to create drama by engaging you in negative conversation,  it's best to just say no.
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Got that person in your life who always seems to be creating drama out of nothing and then tries to incite a response from you? You know the type; they ask how you feel about something personal or controversial, prodding you for a dramatic reply. Engaging in negative chatter like this is a dangerous trap to fall in, but there are ways to side-step the drama.   

Awesome Etiquette: Turn Off That Camera, Please

Nov 10, 2017
Video chatting can be fun and useful, but remember to be respectful of those around you who might not want to be caught on camera.
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Video chatting through FaceTime, Skype and other apps has become a popular form of communication. But what about those around you who may not feel comfortable being on camera or in the conversation? As electronic devices become more deeply embedded in our lives, we find ourselves faced with more concerns about e-etiquette. 

Awesome Etiquette: Look, I Really Gotta Go

Nov 3, 2017
Alerting others in your dinner party that you need to leave by a certain time will allow you to opt out if the evening drags on.
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You've been out to a delightful dinner with friends. The meal was delicious and the conversation was enjoyable. Now it's time pay the bill and hit the road. But wait, one of your friends decides to order coffee. Do you stick around for more chit-chat or bolt out the door?

Awesome Etiquette: The Wedding Gift Obligation

Oct 27, 2017
Sending a wedding gift when you can't attend the big day is still encouraged in most situations.
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We often find ourselves grappling with age-old etiquette that suggests sending a wedding gift even when you can't attend the event. Some might find this tradition unrealistic to uphold, but generally, we think it still holds true.

Awesome Etiquette: Double Booked Dilemma

Oct 20, 2017
Canceling one commitment to attend a different event is not usually a good practice; however, sometimes there are exceptions.
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This week's question asks about a calendar conflict caused by two events booked on the same night. The first, a night out with friends; the second, a birthday dinner for a family member. What to do and which to cancel?  

Awesome Etiquette: Supportive Yet Sensitive

Oct 13, 2017
One way of offering support to friends during a difficult time is to simply be there for them and provide normalcy.
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Offering support is an essential part of friendship, but it can also be tricky when the situation is personal and sensitive.  For instance, we heard from a couple who were close with another couple that was having difficulty conceiving. Their question: is it okay to ask about fertility progress since these friends shared this information in the first place?

Awesome Etiquette: An Uncomfortable Link

Oct 6, 2017
An invitation to a website of personal interest should not be included in a business-related e-mail message.
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A listener recently asked advice on how to reply to a work-related e-mail from a very nice client. Even though the message was related to business, it also included an invitation to receive a link for religious material. Working in a public sector job where separation exists between church and state, the recipient was unsure how to respond and felt it inappropriate to engage the request.

Awesome Etiquette: Commenting On Social Media

Sep 29, 2017
Social media is all about engagement and participation, so the rules of an in-person conversation don't always apply.
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Controlling interruptions is useful and polite when having a conversation. But should that skill be applied to social media? Are you hijacking someone's post if you try to one-up the person with a photo you think is more cute or with a funnier story?

Awesome Etiquette: Innocent But Inappropriate

Sep 22, 2017

We all appreciate a compliment on our appearance from time to time. But should it happen each and every day in the workplace? And from the boss?

Awesome Etiquette: Stuck In Your Seat At 30,000 Feet

Sep 8, 2017
If you have a window seat while flying and need to get up, plan on doing so when others in your row are out of their seats.
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You're at crusing altitude on a flight home when, suddenly, nature calls. Not a problem since there's a restroom a few rows away; however, the person in the aisle seat won't get up to let you out!

Awesome Etiquette: How On-Line Dating Has Changed First Dates

Sep 1, 2017
The convenience of on-line dating often allows a person to go on multiple first dates in the same day.
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In the world of on-line dating, first dates are becoming less formal and, instead, turning into quick meetings over coffee or lunch. With this modern, time-saving way of getting to know someone, the opportunity to have multiple first dates in one day is now an option.

Awesome Etiquette: Oh, So You're Not Pregnant?

Aug 25, 2017
Asking others about their health, family or finances is always a no-no unless you've been invited into the conversation.
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This time we're faced with a classic etiquette question: how do you reply when someone wrongly assumes you're pregnant and comments on it publicly?

Awesome Etiquette: It's Never Too Late

Aug 17, 2017
A thank-you note should always be written in a timely manner but it's still appreciated even when sent late.
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An important task for a married couple to get to not long after their big day, is sending out thank-you notes to those who participated, celebrated and gave gifts at the wedding. But how long is too long to mail those cards?

Awesome Etiquette: The Art Of The Online Compliment

Aug 11, 2017

This week's question delves into the realm of online dating. A listener wrote in to ask how best to respond to the comment, "You're too pretty to be on a dating site!"

Though the person who sent it probably meant his comment as a compliment, there are better ways to compliment someone on a dating site that you haven't met yet in real life.

Awesome Etiquette: Explaining Your Decision To Give Up Alcohol

Aug 4, 2017
Giving up drinking alcohol is a personal lifestyle choice which requires no explanation to others; however, it may be useful information for someone like a dinner party host.
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Dinner parties and social events often include the consumption of wine, beer or cocktails. But when you make a decision to cut alcohol out of your life, how do you inform your circle of friends with whom you usually share a few drinks? What do you say if they ask why? And should you make a dinner party host aware of your lifestyle change?

Awesome Etiquette: Zip It, It's My Turn To Talk

Jul 28, 2017
Good conversation is an art but often difficult when the other person won't stop talking to give you a turn.
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We've all been caught up in a conversation with someone who enjoys talking a lot about very little and, often, about themselves. So how do you keep the dialog on-topic and the focus off of the other person?

Awesome Etiquette: When Real Life Relationships Impact Social Media Friendships

Jul 21, 2017
When you "unfriend" someone on social media, that person may not even realize it since these types of notifications aren't typically sent to users.
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Your best friend just broke up with her beau who you happen to be friends with in both real life and on Facebook. Now what do you do? "Unfriend" him or stay connected at the risk of ticking off your bestie?

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