Awesome Etiquette

Sunday at 10:40 a.m. on VPR
  • Hosted by Lizzie Post, Daniel Post Senning

Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning of the Emily Post Institute answer your questions about etiquette. From the most traditional to the unexpectedly modern the Posts tackle etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect, and honesty.

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Awesome Etiquette: Speak Nicely Of Ex In Front Of Kids

Nov 18, 2016

Here's something to think about as we approach the holiday season: Even though you may be separated or divorced from your spouse, it is always best to speak positively about your ex in front of your children. And this rule goes for everyone in the family.

Awesome Etiquette: Be A Gracious Guest When Friends Are Not Great Cooks

Nov 12, 2016

When your new friends, who also happen to be self-professed lousy cooks, have invited you to their house for a meal, it's time to strategize.

At mealtime, first and foremost, do not bring up the quality of their cooking. Instead, plan ahead: Approach the situation with awareness, knowing you probably won't be eating a full meal and eat a snack before and bring one with you for after. Make an effort to at least try a small portion of everything that you're served.

Awesome Etiquette: Hosting Holiday Visitors

Nov 4, 2016

You are hosting both of your families for the long Thanksgiving weekend and they haven't spent this much time together since your wedding. Their personalities could not be more different. How do you keep everyone happy and not lose your mind in the process?

Awesome Etiquette: A "Soup"er Table Manner

Oct 27, 2016

You're seated at a restaurant and in front of you, the waiter places a beautiful bowl of soup. Instead of settling in to enjoy the meal, you might begin to fret about the inevitable spill potential.

Awesome Etiquette: When A Friend Copies Your Resumé

Oct 20, 2016
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You've offered to help a friend write a resumé and, as an idea-generator, you share yours. Then, your friend uses the same copy, font and order that's on your resumé instead of using it as a template to create their own original document.

The first step is to remember that old adage: "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery."

Awesome Etiquette: Notes To A Food Thief

Oct 14, 2016
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The refrigerator in your communal office kitchen can be a great money-saving resource when you want to brown-bag it. But when you leave food items that you intend to consume later and they show up missing, the kitchen can become a source of frustration.

Awesome Etiquette: Are You Okay?

Oct 6, 2016

When your facial expression doesn't match your inner mood, this can cause friends and acquaintances to check in with you and inquire if you're okay.

Awesome Etiquette: Your Table Is Ready...And Hurry Up

Sep 30, 2016
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It is now easier than ever to make reservations for dinner at your favorite hot spot via online apps. But while this tool is great for making sure your table is ready and waiting when you arrive, it also comes with some drawbacks, namely the restaurant's desire to turn over your table quickly so they can reserve that table for the next set of diners and add to their bottom line.

Awesome Etiquette: Irresponsible Inviting

Sep 23, 2016
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If you've been invited to a party by a friend who hasn't first cleared the invite with the host, it could be cause for an awkward situation.

Awesome Etiquette: Give A Gift To Celebrate, Not Just Reciprocate

Sep 16, 2016
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What happens when, without explanation, a family member who traditionally sends a birthday gift to your child does not? It can leave you wondering whether you should send a birthday gift to their children or skip it.

Awesome Etiquette: Is Saying Sir Or Ma'am Outdated?

Sep 9, 2016

Were you raised to address your elders by using "Sir" or "Ma'am?" The idea of calling an acquaintance or loved one by these monikers may seem old-fashioned or even feel out of place in certain regions of the United States.

Awesome Etiquette: Does A Host Always Have To Serve A Meal?

Sep 2, 2016
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A close friend is having some work done on his home and needs to vacate for a day or two while the work is being finished. You've extended the invitation for him to stay at your home, and are happy to offer, but are left wondering if you are responsible for dinner.

Awesome Etiquette: Dealing With Library Anxiety

Aug 26, 2016
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Libraries can be tricky places to navigate. That’s why librarians are there, to help make sense of the literary maze. However, some people have library anxiety and worry about asking a librarian for help.

If you’re a librarian, how can you make sure you’re approachable and able to offer help to people in a non-patronizing way?

Awesome Etiquette: Small Weddings

Aug 19, 2016
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If a couple chooses to have a small wedding that is just a brief civil ceremony, is there any special etiquette that goes with this type of event?

How do you let people know about the wedding and the celebration afterwards? Additionally, how can you direct people to make gifts of money towards a honeymoon fund instead of getting physical presents that aren’t needed?

Awesome Etiquette: Splitting Your Time When Visiting Friends

Aug 16, 2016
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As we get older and move away from our friends, often we only get the chance to see them for a few days a year.

If you’ve recently made a new friend who lives in the same area as an old friend you rarely see, what is the best way to spend your time when you make the yearly trek to visit your old friend? Should you not tell your new friend that you’ll be town or should you take a few hours away from the time with your old friend to see the new friend?   

Awesome Etiquette: Should Everyone Buy A Round When Out With Friends?

Aug 7, 2016
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It’s great to go out with friends to catch up and socialize. If people are getting drinks during these group hangouts, often people will take turns buying rounds.

Awesome Etiquette: Contacting An Ex's Family

Jul 29, 2016
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After a break-up, it's often tough to navigate the potentially rough waters in between you and your ex. And if you were once close with your ex's family, that can add another layer of doubt about how or if you should stay in contact.

Awesome Etiquette: The Ebb And Flow Of Gift Giving

Jul 22, 2016
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Friendships, like any relationship, grow and change over time. Gift giving might be a part of how people celebrate birthdays and holidays in some friendships, but over time that can change as well.

What happens when a friendship grows more distant and you don’t want to keep giving gifts, but the other person continues to send them? Is there a tactful way to tell them they don’t need to keep sending gifts and make sure they know you still value their friendship?

Awesome Etiquette: When Should A Waiter Clear The Table?

Jul 15, 2016
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There’s often debate about the etiquette to follow when eating out at a restaurant, both for diners and servers.

One hotly debated question has to do with when a server should remove empty plates from the table. Is it better to remove plates as diners finish eating, or should they wait to clear the table after everyone has finished their meal?

Awesome Etiquette: Asking For One-On-One Time From Friends In Relationships

Jul 10, 2016

If you're single, sometimes it feels like your friends in relationships only want to hang out when their partner is out of town or unavailable. It can feel like a petty complaint, but feeling like you're only a backup plan is no fun. How can you talk to your friends about hanging out one-on-one without sound like you're complaining about their partner?