Awesome Etiquette

Sunday at 10:40 a.m. on VPR
  • Hosted by Lizzie Post, Daniel Post Senning

Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning of the Emily Post Institute answer your questions about etiquette. From the most traditional to the unexpectedly modern the Posts tackle etiquette through the lens of consideration, respect, and honesty.

Below are the versions of Awesome Etiquette that broadcast on VPR. To hear fuller length discussions on these topics, subscribe to the full podcast.

Awesome Etiquette is proud to be recorded at VPR.

Ways to Connect

Awesome Etiquette: How To Manage Group Introductions

Sep 4, 2015
vitranc / istock

This week, we talk about how to properly introduce yourself to a group of people, answering this question from a listener:

"I own a business that specializes in wedding and custom cakes. Frequently, the clients are seated in our showroom when I enter and I introduce myself. Often I don't get a response and I need to ask for names. There are usually more than just [the] couple getting married at the appointment. I've learned not to assume who in the room is getting married. How do I politely ask who's who and [what] the relationship is, and should I be extending my hand for a handshake to the woman at the table? I often get a tepid response when I do that. Any help would be appreciated, thanks."

Awesome Etiquette: How To Properly Respond To 'Thank You'

Aug 28, 2015
mattjeacock / istock

This week, we talk about the proper way to respond to someone's thanks, answering this question from a listener:

"When someone says, 'Thank you' and the person being thanked says, 'No problem,' is that being rude? When I say, 'No problem,' I mean it as a shorthand for 'It was no trouble at all, no thanks needed,' but I've had people argue that the 'no problem' sounds rude. It seems to be a generational divide; my elders find it very rude, my peers or younger people don't seem to ... but is it inherently rude? Do some things grow less rude over time?"

Awesome Etiquette: Communicating With Your Guests Before A Party

Aug 21, 2015
robuart / iStock

This week, we talk about how to communicate information with guests before a party you're hosting, answering this question:

"My wife and I recently moved. About a month after moving, we invited our neighbors over for a get-to-know-your neighbor potluck and only one person RSVP'd enthusiastically. We'll call him Nick. About 48 hours before the event, we emailed Nick and told him he was the only person who indicated they'd be in attendance. We told Nick we'd be happy to have him and that we wanted to let him know the group would be small so he wouldn't bring a side dish to feed a big group of people. On the night of the event, Nick appeared not to have received our email and was surprised at the low turnout and indicated he felt awkward about the situation, as did we."

"Is there a better way to have handled this? We certainly didn't want to un-invite him, nor did we want to nag by sending a slew of, 'Did you get our message?' emails to him. We are moving again soon ... and don't want to repeat this in our new neighborhood."

Awesome Etiquette: Breastfeeding At A Party

Aug 17, 2015
tanja-ru / istock

This week, we talk about the proper etiquette of breastfeeding in public, answering this question from a listener:

"During a recent birthday party for a close friend of mine, one of the guests started breastfeeding her baby in front of the other guests. The party was held in my friend's house and the majority of the guests were in the living room, when the mom, who was situated in the middle of the room, started feeding her baby. The woman didn't use a nursing cover or cloth and as a result, most of the guests in the room saw her breast when she took it out.

Awesome Etiquette: How To Plan For A Date

Aug 17, 2015

This week, we talk about dating etiquette, answering this question from a listener: 

"Recently, I’d been on a few dates with a girl that I liked but by the fourth date she seemed unwilling to discuss anything but work. I was on the fence about asking her out for a fifth date and my friend suggested I wait for her to contact me first. Was this bad etiquette?

Awesome Etiquette: How To Disagree With A Future Mother-In-Law

Aug 7, 2015
CSA-Printstock /

This week, we answer a question about how to politely say no to a future mother-in-law.

Awesome Etiquette: How Long To Stay At An Overwhelming Event

Jul 31, 2015
art-y / istock

This week, we answer a question about proper etiquette on how long to stay at an overwhelming event, answering this question from a listener:

"Increasingly among my peer group, get-togethers have taken the form of casual potlucks and drop-by events, rather than a sit down dinner party or a gathering with a central focus or activity. For introverts like myself, a room filled with people milling around, socializing without a plan to sit down together in a more intimate setting, like the dinner table, can be a little anxiety inducing."

jitalia17 / Istock

This week, we talk about how to let strangers know about your medical needs without oversharing, answering this question from a listener:

"I'm fairly young and look around my age or possibly younger – I'm 28, for reference – I have a back injury that causes me chronic, daily pain, but does not require me to use a cane or other means of assistance to walk. However, walking long distances, standing too long, being jostled about, etc. can cause me a great deal of pain."

Awesome Etiquette: Giving People A Chance To Finish Their Sentences

Jul 17, 2015
Akindo / iStock

This week, we talk about how to tell family and friends to let a loved one finish their sentences, answering this question from a listener:

Awesome Etiquette: How To Handle Criticism About Weight Gain

Jul 10, 2015
Meriel Jane Waissman / iStock

This week, we talk about weight gain and the etiquette of dealing with fat shamers, and we answer this question from a listener:

"I will be going to a family reunion in two weeks in my home town. I haven't been there in several years and unfortunately, I have gained 50 pounds since my last visit. People in my home town are not shy at all about mentioning weight gain. I am already anxious and ashamed of my new look, so if anyone mentions it, and I bet money they will, it will make me feel so much worse. Do you have any tips about how to handle fat shamers?"

Awesome Etiquette: Proper Introductions

Jul 8, 2015
narokzaad / iStock

This week, we talk about the etiquette of a proper introduction, answering this question from a listener:

University of Vermont

Wondering what you should wear to a classical concert? When should you clap? Can you bring your kids?

Awesome Etiquette: Buying Very Personal Items At The Drugstore

Jun 26, 2015
fotofrog / istock

What is the proper etiquette for waiting in line behind someone buying personal items at the drugstore? Especially in a small town, or even a small college town, this can be an awkward situation.

Awesome Etiquette: Breakfast For Dinner ... At A Wedding?

Jun 19, 2015
vectorprro / iStock

Breakfast for dinner is an epic-level move. Putting together a fun wedding is, too. Does it work to combine the two? What will the family think?

Awesome Etiquette: The Long Hallway Greeting

Jun 13, 2015
piovesempre / iStock

In the first episode of Awesome Etiquette on VPR, we talk about how to interact with people in a long hallway, answering this question from a listener:

After five generations, Emily Post’s family continues the tradition of bringing etiquette advice to the airwaves with Awesome Etiquette, a weekly feature on VPR.